7 ways to rebuild your self-esteem

When it comes to self-esteem, it can either make us or break us. If your self-esteem is low, it could be detrimental to your success and the overall way you feel about who you are. When I was younger, I really did care about what others thought about me. I was shy and nervous just to walk into a known place by myself. As I grew into the young woman I am now, I gained a lot of self-respect and confidence. I absolutely love the person I have become in this world. I’m not saying I’m perfect or I never make mistakes, by any means. What I am saying is that I learned to choose how I responded to them.

If there is anything I’d want you to remember from my blog today, it’s this: We all have the power to become whoever we want to be in this life. We only get ONE life to live, so live it to your fullest. WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU! Are they you? No, so don’t be who they think you should be. Do what makes you happy, make decisions that benefit you and only you. Don’t just say yes to someone because you feel bad. I did this all the time and I hated when I had to fulfill what they asked. There is a world to be seen out there. Get out and go explore it. Seriously, don’t take anything for granted because you never know what life might throw at you. Speaking of that, when life takes a turn, don’t worry and stress over it. You know why? God has a plan for you. He wouldn’t give you a challenge unless he knew you were strong enough to handle it. Just re-read that and really try to understand !!

Now, lets get into it…

Be careful what you tell yourself

Negative talk can be a total barrier when it comes to rebuilding your self-esteem. I’m sure you’ve noticed that if you keep telling yourself a lie, you’ll eventually believe it. That’s dreadful when it comes to saying things like:

  • I’m not smart enough
  • I’m not worthy
  • It will never workout
  • This is impossible
  • Everyone is better than me
  • I’m not beautiful

When these thoughts start to fill your mind, overpower them with thoughts of love and comfort.

You ARE smart enough!

You ARE worthy!

Things WILL workout! Just give it some time.

Things ARE possible, especially through Christ!

NO ONE is or will ever be better than you.

You ARE beautiful! Don’t let anyone change your mind.

Don’t compare yourself

We have all been guilty of comparing ourselves to others. Let me tell you something though… it’s a battle you will NEVER win. There is no harm in admiring others and taking notice of them shouldn’t diminish your self-worth. Comparing yourself to others doesn’t just steal your happiness, but it also takes time away from enjoying the blessings God has given you already.

There is nothing wrong with using the achievements of others to inspire you or motivate you as long as you do not let it consume you to the point of negativity.

Keep a log of what you’re proud of

When trying to gain more self-esteem, this is one way to really boost you up there. Keeping a log of not only what your proud of, but achievements you’ve made and things you’ve accomplished will help you when your mind is full of negativity. As you start to feel lower than others, you can look back at everything that makes you AMAZING! This is personally one of my favorite ideas I’ve come across!

Take care of yourself

As many of you know, I’m a big lover of self-care. I believe it’s very important when living a healthy life. Self-care isn’t just making sure you’ve washed your face before you went to bed. It’s about taking care of your body and being aware of your mental health. Think of yourself and what YOUR needs are! That’s most important.

Ditch the “negative nancy’s”

Who do you choose to surround yourself with? Being around people who are constantly judging you or putting you down isn’t healthy. If someone you hang around with always has negative thoughts, how is that fun? Instead, be with the people that help you see the brighter picture, the ones that are constantly encouraging you and helping you be the best YOU, you can be.

Don’t have expectations

Wow. This is one I still struggle with. I always seem to have these great expectations of how everyone and everything should be….and guess what? I just seem to be let down and disappointed because it didn’t turn out the way I hoped. If we just started taking things for what they are and didn’t expect them to be a certain way, we might not be happy about it but surely content. Life will be filled with disappointments. You just need to focus on the process of attracting the things you want. Once you do that your perception will change for the better.

Embrace failure

Life is a game of trial and error. You do something and it doesn’t work out? Learn from it. Be proud of your failures because they are stepping stones to your achievements. If you’re always successful at things you will never learn from them as you would from failures. When you start to EMBRACE failing, you will then see your fear of failure subside.

-Go fly, roam, travel, voyage, explore, journey, discover, adventure-